AJ Was So Much More Than What The Media Tried To Make Him Out To Be… Please Read

October 14th 2009

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Let me first say I really would like people to read this and understand that AJ was a loving Man, Brother, Father, and most important man of God who was misunderstood… I was not going to post the story at first but after talking to someone who was one of his good friends he told me, “don’t let AJ’s name and people think he was a dead beat cause he was one of the most kind, giving, and loving men you will ever meet”..

 

On Friday, October 9th, family and friends said their final goodbyes to the young man known as Ashley “AJ” Jewell. If you felt like you knew AJ based on what was seen on the television, then you had no idea who this man really was. A portion of his services were dedicated to friends and family saying kind remarks about him. After hearing those statements, I felt compelled to speak out about how irresponsible reality television and bloggers have become and how damaging the media backlash can be to those around the celebrities featured on these shows and blogs. For instance, blog after blog, portrayed AJ as this deadbeat dad who fathered six children with four different mothers. But, did you know that he was not just a “baby daddy” but a husband to two of those mothers? You didn’t know that AJ took care of over 20 kids and helped their families by paying the rent and giving to them what there parents could not…You don’t know that because the media and reality TV coverage  ONLY desire to perpetuate the bad, most of the time. And, the networks shooting these shows choose to edit their footage based on ratings and NOT reality.

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They won’t tell you that ALL his children had healthy relationships with their father and that his desire was to find Mrs. Right. They also won’t tell you that he was raised in a loving home by parents who have been married for more than thirty years. When his brother Isaac had a chance to speak about his brother, he used it as an opportunity to take the mask off of the MEDIA.

He even went so far as to say that the WORD Media derived from from the Latin word Medea, which has biblical ties to a very powerful witch. And through my own research, another root word is Medium, which means a person thought to have the power to communicate spiritually with agents operating from a demonic dimension.(Before you keep reading I have to set the mood, there was only 3 people with cameras in the room when the brother came up to speak. The brother who’s speech was so moving and informative, after giving the speech everyone and their mama was looking at me as I tried to hied my camera in shame cause I was at the time the media. I’m thinking the whole time please God don’t let nothing pop off. ) The bother then went on to talk about the word Hollywood, which were the trees that they wood hang witches on, and how Wizards wood take the branches from hollywood to make their wands. It was a really good speech.. 

The underlying message is you can not believe everything you read or see on these shows and blogs. When you are reading about these people, keep in mind; this is someone’s sister, someone’s brother, someone’s son, someone’s father. And, you are only seeing a miniscule fraction of their REAL lives. Reality television producers shoot hours and hours of footage but, edit them down to forty minutes of the most “entertaining” aspects of their subject’s lives. AJ’s father Ashley Jewell Sr., who happens to be a Pastor, spoke of a son who knew God, a son he prayed for and with, a son who he anointed with oil. He said his son was special and people who took the time to get to know him picked that up about him. And, his children will be continually be reminded of his short but meaningful legacy. It is unfortunate that he wasn’t able to find that marriage he was searching for with either of his ex-wives or with Kandi Burruss but, it’s evident that he left an indelible mark on each of their hearts.

Though it was for a very short time, I am very happy I was able to meet this guy with the unforgettable smile, Rest in Peace AJ!

Story By Celebrity Publicist April Love.

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23 COMMENTS

  • Drea

    October 14, 2009 at 9:51 am

    Why does Tiny have on the same clothes she wore to A.J’s Funeral at the BET Hip Hop event?

  • Ms. Smalls

    October 14, 2009 at 10:35 am

    U did a great job covering this…

  • October 14, 2009 at 10:59 am

    don’t know why ppl talked about AJ, but I have to say that I didn’t see anything on RHOA that painted him in a bad light. The only msg I received was that a real mother had concerns about her daughter marrying a man with the issues that she felt was too much drama. If ppl agreed that he had too much baggage then that’s what that is. I happen to be a reality tv junkie and I can honestly say that I was devasted by AJ’s death. Not because I knew him, but because I knew that Kandi loved him. Like I told her, the fact that he appeared on the show opened the level of impact that his death made. In essence he lived and died but not only was his family and friends affected, but it affected a mass number of tv watchers. Who will care when I die? I know that AJ’s fame may not have come in the form that he would have wanted, but the universe has a little less shine now that he is gone. Thank you for shedding the light on who this man really was.

  • October 14, 2009 at 11:47 am

    Tiny Looks Great! & She wore Black leggings & a Nice silver looking top With Silver looking shoes to the BET HIP HOP awards party! Not that skirt, somebody was probably looking at the wrong pics!

    This is a Very TOUCHING article! I think this will show alot of people that you cant believe everything you see on TV. Of course is not interesting to say that AJ was a great man, wonderful father, and that he touched many lives. Thats not gossip, its not going to get ratings! The Media will rip you to shreds! SMH

  • cheese

    October 14, 2009 at 11:48 am

    aj kicked Kandi mother up under the bus in s2s this month issue

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  • MAC DADDY

    October 14, 2009 at 1:02 pm

    WHY IS NENE ACTING LIKE THIS IS THE RED CARPET!! CAN’T STAND THAT HOODRAT

  • Dre

    October 14, 2009 at 1:30 pm

    @ iFashionBuzz
    The BET Hip Hop Preview Style Suite Pic’s + Meet Ester Dean, if you look at the pictures on this very site you will see that she has on the same outfit! Right pictures!

  • Mac Main

    October 14, 2009 at 2:35 pm

    The reality is…..A life is lost. Regardless to who the media or what people made him out to be, he had the love and admiration of his family and children. Regardless to what he was pretrayed to be or what everyone thinks he was somebody’s son, brother, uncle, father, and friend. They can’t grow old with him no more. They wont be able to call him to check and see how he is doing anymore. I pray that his family all have peace of mind and heart during the time of moarn and after the media fiasco is over.

    Logic

  • GOD FEARING

    October 14, 2009 at 3:27 pm

    Thank You , for sharing a piece of his life and memory with us. I didn’t know him , but i did respect him as a person on RHOA . My elders thought me to never judge a person , because that is a job that only GOD can do and also not to judge a person on the opinion of ohers, so with that being said , thank’s for the beautiful post and not letting his memory be a tarnished one. May GOD be with his family , kids and many that loved him. P. S. Thanks to Kandi for sharing him with the world, had i not been through you we would have missed out on his life and legacy. GOD bless!!!!

  • Truth Girl

    October 14, 2009 at 3:48 pm

    It’s unfortunate AJ passed under these circumstances. God rest his soul.
    to the author of this article, you’re too late. It is what it is! it was AJ’s choice to put his business on front street. He got paid.everyone knows when you sign up for reality TV you’re selling your soul f to the devil. YOur article sugar coat s the man AJ was. He was human. I’m sure he was He made mistake in life. it doenst matter how many article we put out in his honor , he’ll work out his mistakes with God.

  • sarah

    October 14, 2009 at 5:00 pm

    do you have a link to the speech? it’s sounds like it was good.
    Anyway I’m just a fan of the show….but even from the show you could tell that he was probably laid back and about business. I liked the footage they showed of him helping Kandi hang her gold/platinum records and the footage of Kandi talking about how he wasn’t a deadbeat and tried to take care of all his kids.

    The media is only interested in the stereotypical…hopefully he is in a better place. God Bless him and his family.

  • Jane Doe

    October 14, 2009 at 10:31 pm

    All I Have to say is AJ was a loving person and the funeral was beutiful me moe,and tiny were there aaaaand he will surly be missed

    and tiny got the same clothes on she had for the hip hop awards cuz the awards was right before the awards stupid ass this about a loving man who would be lost not what someones wairing

  • Sunshine

    October 14, 2009 at 10:39 pm

    Ladies and Gentlemen, THINK ABOUT THIS….We lost another African American MAN to violence and all you can think about is what someone wore to an Awards show and to a funeral…..come on people “and/or” to the person that was so concern about what Tiny wore!!!!!! NO ONE is PERFECT than our GOD and we as individuals know who we need to report to when it comes that time! This man lived his life as how OUR GOD planned and whatever he chose to do outside of what was planned for him, it was HIS choice!! We have no room to judge this man, we have no room to judge anyone but ourselves. Look at yourself in the mirror before you reflect/speak your judgment on someone else. “Do unto others as you would want to be done unto you” is what we all should live by.

    This coverage was GREAT, you even explained how you/yourelf as being part of the “media” to gain coverage for your audience, but at the same time you were being “checked boo” (lol), checked on how AJ was just an individual (a man) living his life with the same family love, support and GOD that majority of us has and/or have had in OUR lives.

    Continue to do great work and do what it do to be successful….may GOD continue to bless you and work!

    RIP to AJ as he will be missed by is loved ones and fans, may GOD continue to give the family the strength to keep his spirit alive. With deepest sympathy to the entire family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Layla

    October 15, 2009 at 11:23 am

    I truly believe that AJ was a good person and I can see why Kandi was in love with him. Despite of his multiple kids, this should not deem him as a bad person because of it. May he rip, and the family as well and Kandi will be in my prayers.

  • Mister

    October 15, 2009 at 2:51 pm

    Wow, that funeral program was very nice!

    Rest in peace A.J! My prayers are with you and your family.

  • KEEPINITREAL

    October 15, 2009 at 10:18 pm

    Truth Girl I couldn’t have said it better myself. Most funerals and obituaries ignore the faults of the deceased. There is no doubt AJ was a good man. However our youth has to learn if you live in the streets there is a good chance you will die in the streets. RIP AJ. God bless your family.

  • SnowFlake

    October 17, 2009 at 4:31 am

    Thank you for publishing the article, it was very enlightening and informative. As for me, I never judged A.J. I felt that if he loved Kandi and she loved him, thats their business. Yes, it may have been on television, but all of that is for entertainment. and the bottom line , thats their life, thier business… whatever they decided to do, I washoping for the best and was really thinking wow, how unsupportive her mother was, Kandi is an adult let her be that if it worked out GREAT, if not oh well, …at least she loved and gave it a try….

    It is VERY sad that another man has lost his life, and in any capacity another set of children are left without a father to see them experinece life. His family will also miss on the joy of his smile and laughter

    I pray for PEACE for his family, for Kandi and may his soul rest …..

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  • un known

    November 4, 2009 at 2:28 pm

    you will be missed he was a great father a loving son a big brother and loved by many I wil never for get all the times we shared together.A lot of ppl misjudge him because of what they heard no one never looked at that Kandie daughters father wasn’t in her life.Aj being the man he was and made her his on along with his 6 kids plus the ones that wasnt his kids in past relationship he held on to them as his on and continued to provide for them as his own he was great to his kids and they miss there father so much ppl never thought about that his kids was hearing all this stuff about him that was not truth. I heard his son say I remember my daddy took me to that MCDonalds its amazing how kid remember the lil things so much fun they had with him. And the truth will come out about his death because it ws not sickle cell and justice will be served and I pray to GOD that he reveal wat really happened Oct.2,2009 at the Body Tap

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