Recently Will Smith sat down with Essence Magazine and dished out the real deal when it came to marriage and what it takes to with stand a solid marriage. As we all know, Will and Jada Smith have been happily married for 14 years and have become america’s template for what a happy and successful marriage and family looks like, so rightfully going to either Will or Jada for advice is suiting.
If You Marry Your Best Friend, Youâ€™re Good
Every man wants to marry his homie, Will explained. A lot of women will impress them, but itâ€™s the one they can always laugh with and be themselves with that will ultimately impress them the most. If you can be yourselves around each other, 100 percent of the time, and they can make you life like no one else can, youâ€™ll never have a dull moment together.
Remind Him of What He Has
When you start to feel that youâ€™re nagging your husband to the point of no return and nothing youâ€™re saying is getting through, Will suggests you try a new approach. Hold him close, look him right in the eyes, and tell him that you love him, youâ€™re right there, and you always will be, BUT you need him to pick his socks up â€“ right now. As Will puts it, itâ€™s important to remind him that your request is coming from a good place, and what you want is a small thing in the grand scheme of things. Um, genius!
All Men Need A Little Space
â€œIf you donâ€™t give your husband thirty minutes to himself when he first gets home heâ€™ll stop coming home,â€ Will told me, straight up. (Youâ€™re thinking, no way, right? I did too!) When I asked Will when a wife was supposed to say her piece, he responded, â€œanytime after that.â€ Will reminded me that everyoneâ€™s home needs to feel like a happy place, and it wonâ€™t if youâ€™re â€œgreeted with negativityâ€ every time you enter the door. TouchÃ© Will. Talk about a pause for the cause.
Focus on Balance and Excitement Always
According to Will and Jadaâ€™s way of thinking about marriage, maintaining a happy union isnâ€™t just about making time for one another, itâ€™s about making the time count too. Excitement and mystery are everything, he said. Surprise them, let them know you love them, laugh together â€“ whatever it takes to put a smile on their face.