I think it is best to be honest and answer questions appropriately based on the child's age. Use your words carefully because they will remember exactly what you say. For example, if you say "Aunt Karen went to the hospital and passed away". The child may interpret when people go to the hospital, the next step will be death. There also are children's books that can help explain the death of a loved one. If a child asks a question and you are not sure how to respond, its fair to state, "that is a good question, I don't have an answer right now however I will get back to you or have an answer for you later". The child will remember, so do your homework and more important show them you are true to your word by responding at a later date. My husband died when my son was 6 so there was many conversations about death and dying in our home. I tried my best to normalize the situation and not present it as something to fear. Losing a parent is very difficult for a child at any age, however, their brains are resilient and their coping skills are incredible. If the child becomes depressed or despondent, seek professional help. Love and comfort them as you would want to be comforted in a sad situation. Blessings.
